Family isn’t those whom you’re related to by blood. While those people are, by definition, your family, they don’t have to be. To me, family is made up of people who support you, love you, & care about you. My family is blood related & chosen. You can choose who is part of your family. Blood doesn’t mean anything when the emotional support & connection isn’t there. Sometimes, those you meet by chance throughout your life are closer to you than the people you were born into, & that’s ok.
Knowing who your family is & connecting with them is one of the most important part of the holidays. A lot of people don’t live in their hometown with their families anymore. That means that you probably only see your family there a couple of times a year. Since you’re not seeing them as much, these times that you are spending together become everything. They become the moments you’ll remember forever, the opportunities that bring you closer together or the interactions that can drive a wedge into the relationships in the family. Making sure you use your time together to come closer & spend quality time with each other is everything.
Family is the only thing you’ll forever constantly have. Forming these memories & connections with them during the holidays sets the tone for how you interact with them always. Separate yourself from toxic family members if needed, but don’t neglect those who are there for you. Family dynamics are a tricky & touchy subject, every family is different. Do what feels right for your family & your situation.
Just remember this holiday season as you gather again & give thanks to those in your life, your family is who you chose, make the most out of the time you have with them, & love them. Happy holidays!